Trying harder to be loving with troubled people misses the point. God’s agape love “in you” by the indwelling Holy Spirit is the only possible answer. Let go and let God have all there is of you.
God is King, Master, and Lord, for sure. And at the same time we see in Scripture Jesus said, “Our Father in heaven …” My friend, sometimes intimacy with God escapes us because we simply have a wrong view of our Father in heaven.